We recently discussed the problem we face when we ask "Why am I so unhappy?" Below is an outline that you might find helpful as you face this common problem (of discontentment).
I. What is Contentment?
A.
“Contentment is that condition of consciously enjoying
God’s goodness, whatever your circumstances. It is the ability to live a
satisfied, God-pleasing life in any situation.”[1]
B.
Illustrations and Lessons in Contentment
1.
Psalm 131 - Contentment is
valuing God above all else so that you are happy in him rather than demanding.
2.
Philippians 4:10-13 -
Contentment is learning to face every circumstance with joy by relying on the
strength of Christ.
C.
What is some of
the fruit of contentment?
1.
“calmed/quieted soul”—One
that is not pridefully looking to the next thing all the time.
2. Resting confidently in God’s strength (cf. anxious, angry, bitter, complaining, greedy).
II.
How Do We Grow in Contentment?
A.
Discern the roots of your discontentment (the
idolatrous desires)
“What would need to happen for me to become content?” If your
answer involves some change of circumstance or some improved relationship, then
realize that this very thing is now functioning as your source of contentment.
You think that if you have it, you will be happy, and that if you lack it, you will
be sad. You are a yo-yo on its string; this thing has you in its grasp and can
raise you up and down at will. It is an idol that functions as your god. For
example, if your contentment hinges on finding a spouse or getting married,
then it is not based on Christ. If your contentment will come only if your
spouse or friend treats you better, or if you receive some financial blessing
or physical healing, then it is not Christ-based contentment. You are building
your life on shifting sand. God never meant for you to find lasting joy in
anything other than Christ Himself.”[2]
a.
Monitor your actions
… where do I see grumbling, self-pity, anger, bitterness?
b.
Monitor your thoughts…where
do I see thoughts that are discontent? What is that “If only xyz, then I could
be happy” thought?
B.
Rest in God’s providence and character
1.
God’s Character. A few
areas to focus on: Sovereignty, goodness, wisdom.
2.
God’s Providence (Phil.
4:19)
C.
Curate God’s kindness
1.
Develop a museum (notebook)
of God’s goodness. Mentally walk through it and be humbled / thankful.
2.
Psalm 103 is a good example
of curating God’s kindnesses – he blesses the Lord for his kindnesses to him.
D.
Guard yourself from comparing and greed as well as
setting your hope on the things of this world
1.
Don’t compare or get greedy
(Luke 12:15, see also the Corinthians believers re spiritual gifts).
2.
Don’t set your heart on
things that will fade (Ps 62:10).
E.
Realize there are needs around you and give and serve
to meet the needs of others (2 Cor. 9:8)
F.
Set your mind on things above – have an eternal
perspective (Col. 3:1-2, Matt. 6:19-20)
